Hello! My name is Sofie. I am somewhere around 4 years old. I’m not sure because I was adopted. The family that adopted me put me up for adoption again and didn’t send along any of my information to the adoption agency, the Denver Dumb Friends League.
I watch and listen to the t.v. news. It bothers me to listen to news reports about how human beings treat each other. They call each other awful names. They accuse each other of nefarious acts. They use religion and/or politics to justify their behavior. They say bad things about each other. They threaten each other. They beat each other up. They shoot each other. They stab each other. They poison each other. And many of them mistreat animals. Some even hunt and murder animals for trophies. And they express hate for human beings they do not like, for one reason or another.
The family who put me up for adoption constantly beat me, especially their kids. Not to fault the kids, because I believe kids are a by-product of their parents, I had to start biting them when they hit me. It got so bad I lost my appetite. I couldn’t sleep. I was constantly looking for somewhere to hide so that they could not find me. I lost weight. I was beginning to not want to live anymore. I was a nervous wreck. Finally, the mother of the family felt they had to put me up for adoption because I was incorrigible to her kids. Little did she realize that behavior can be changed.
So, you know, feelings, which ignite behavior, play an integral role in the way we communicate with each other. Feeling hate for someone works against those who hate. Hate is based on fear, and fear is based on ignorance. Hating works and wears on the human body for those who hate. It can cause cancer to one or more of the organs in your body. It can slowly eat away at your muscles and/or your nervous system. Hate is like cancer. Hate long enough and it will kill you.
So, wouldn’t it be nice if we could learn about that which we hate so that we no longer feel that way about anyone? I don’t know if I hated the family that beat me, but I know I didn’t want to be around them anymore. They feared me because they did not know that animals, just as human beings, have feelings, and they need to respect that, just as they need to respect each other’s feelings regardless of race, religion, political philosophy and a host of other things. The fine point of this posting is that we need to back off all of the stresses and pressures that infect our individual lives. We need to set aside our prejudices. We need to go to work on ways to communicate positively with each other so that all of us can contribute to a more positive and happier world.
If we don’t do that, we are going to continue to quietly trickle down a sewer where ghosts and goblins will eat us up and spit us out because we taste so badly. I am grateful. I am thankful. I am with a family now who doesn’t beat me. They love me and I love them and I wish that all of us could be that way with each other. I forget myself sometimes and bite them even though they have never threatened me at all. I just don’t bite down hard and break their skin like I did with the other family. Now, I just begin to bite down and then quit when I hear the soothing voice tell me to not do that and then kiss me on the forehead. Love is the solution.
Why don’t your try that today? You’ll feel a lot better about yourself and your life.
Have a nice day, or nice night, wherever you might be.
Donald L. Vasicek
What I get from the experience you shared with me is
that with people like this, you need to take from them
what benefits you and let the rest go past you. Anything
that is said that ignites your emotions should be set to
the side. When listening to people like this is to be,
“What can I learn here? What can I sift from all of this
bullshit that will help me with my project?” Let your mind
go to work on that and let the rest of the bullshit go.
Remember, film is subjective. What one person likes,
another person will not like. Screenwriter/writer William Goldman (Dreamcatcher (Movie)
Hearts In Atlantis (Movie)
Mission: Impossible II (Movie)
The General’s Daughter (Movie)
Absolute Power (Movie)
The Ghost And The Darkness (Movie)
The Chamber (Movie)
Last Action Hero (Movie)
Year Of The Comet (Movie)
Memoirs Of An Invisible Man (Movie)
The Princess Bride (Movie)
A Bridge Too Far (Movie)
Marathon Man (Movie)
All The President’s Men (Movie)
The Stepford Wives (Movie)
The Great Waldo Pepper (Movie)
The Hot Rock (Movie)
Butch Cassidy And The Sundance Kid (Movie)
said no one knows anything in Hollywood. And he’s right.
There are no “experts” in the film industry because each
person and whatever job they have is always based on
subjectivity. For example, Steven Spielberg
is a Hollywood filmmaker, so he is good at making Hollywood
films, period. That doesn’t mean he’s an expert regarding how to,
or how to not write a script or make a movie. It
means he is an expert at making Hollywood films, period. It means
he has a brand that will not work for anyone else. So, one
needs to sift from talk about their project what benefits them, and let the rest of the Hollywood bullshit in his films go.
When your work is being critiqued, remember this, they
are going to be critical because they are critiquing your
work. This means that they will always have a tendency
for overkill to impress upon you they know what they’re
talking about, which really translates to mean, that the
more they say, they less they know about your work.
All filmmakers have to get themselves to a point where
they settle on who they are and what kind of films
they make. They have to just take from criticism what
benefits them and let the rest of it go. Usually, this
means about 90% about what anyone else, I repeat,
anyone else, says about your work, doesn’t know
what they’re talking about. Remember, you’re the one
in the trenches creating and during your work. Remember,
you’re the one who is sweating blood and bleeding tears
to get your work just the way you want it to be. No one,
I repeat, no one, has any concept of that experience,
except you. So, ask others to tell you what they
think about your work, but don’t believe most of what
they say because it isn’t true. And never, never, never
argue with anyone about your work. For lack of
better terminology, f*** them, they don’t f***** know
what they’re talking about. Bleed and sweat with
you, and they might know a bit more about your
heart and mind and how much of that you put
into your work, but for the most part, they don’t
know shit about your work because they are
perceiving it from their point-of-view, which is
different than your point-of-view.
I have often noticed that filmmakers find a television
director to direct their feature film, or find a
television scriptwriter to write their feature film
script. Guess what? They don’t know shit about
writing or directing a feature film. The reason for
this is that writing and/or directing for television
is different than writing and/or directing feature films.
And that is where their experience is at, so be careful
with getting television people to help you with your
Take care. Keep up your chin. Be proud. Be confident
to the point of arrogance, and at times take yourself
past the point of arrogance regarding yourself and
your work. Do not allow anyone to take anything
from you you do not want to give to them. Nothing!!!
It matters not who it is that is bombing you with
their thoughts about your work, always remember,
film is subjective, which includes everything it takes
to make a film. How many times have you watched
a movie and discussed with another or others, or
found very few if any who agreed on how good or
how bad the movie was? Movie goers and people
who are involved in different facets of making movies
are subjective, the same as favoring one politial
candidate over another candidate. That’s just what
movies generate in people, subjectivity, which is
based on their total life experience to date, and that
includes their upbringing, their education, the location
or locations where they have lived, etc. It’s supposed to be that way, but you don’t have to buy into everything someone tells you about
your project, because, unless they jump down there
in the mud and grime with you, roll around in the dirt,
and mud and swamp water and work hard to make your project, they know little, if anything about your work.